How a Rebound Relationship Can
Work In Your Favor
 So, you have broken up with the love of your life and she is in a rebound
relationship. Now you want to know how you can get her back.
Whenever a breakup occurs, there is the possibility that one of you is going to be tempted with “being on
the rebound”. Often, that happens because, like it or not, there are plenty of people who are willing to
take advantage of someone who is on the rebound. They know that the person is hurting and is experiencing a “void”
right now and just might be looking to fill it.
Bottom line: she’s in a rebound relationship to deal with losing you. At this point, it doesn’t
matter why you broke up and it doesn’t matter whose fault it was. It doesn’t even matter who actually called the
relationship off. What matters is, now that you have broken up and had some time to think about it, you realize you
had a real love. Well, don’t despair because, virtually all relationships founded on real love can be saved.
The first thing you need to understand when asking how a rebound relationship can work in your favor is: if she’s
in a rebound relationship, she will be focusing on what was wrong with your relationship. And that most likely
results in her finding someone the exact opposite of you. If you were a “good guy” she’ll probably be hanging out
with a “bad boy.” If you were into philosophy, he’ll be watching Monday Night Football, or vise versa.
Take heart though; the fact that she is with someone the opposite of you is actually good for you for two reasons.
One (believe it or not) her attention is still focused on you, even though she’s with the new guy. And two, it
gives you a chance to see what she’s looking for. Let me explain:
If she’s with someone as different from you as possible, it most likely shows she was missing something in your
relationship. If you can accept that fact, you can use the time she’s with “rebound man” to improve yourself.
One thing you will have to do; you will have to let the rebound relationship run its course, because she’ll
eventually start to see flaws in him. After a month or so, you’ll start to look pretty good.
That’s why you don’t want to force your way back into her world right away. Let her find out on her own that she
misses the good things that were in your relationship. When she’s ready to make a move, welcome her back
graciously. Be a new and improved boyfriend but, whatever you do, don’t do the chasing. In the meantime here are
some specific steps you can take while your ex is in a rebound relationship:
• Don’t try to convince her that you are the love of her life; in her current state of mind, she wouldn’t believe
you anyway. You need to let her discover this on her own.
• Don’t apologize with begging and tears. If you did something wrong, it’s okay to say you’re sorry, but then move
on. Deep down inside, she knows the real reason she loves you.
• Don’t make promises to change. Unless it is to right any wrongs that caused the breakup, you are who you are
and that’s who she fell in love with.
• Don’t try to make her see that it was or wasn’t your fault. She will come to appreciate that over time – but
don’t force her in defending her position that it was your fault, even if it wasn’t.
• Never, ever beg her to take you back. This is a death knell to restoring the relationship. Be a man, not a
mouse!
When you ex starts going out with someone just after you break up, she’s in a rebound relationship. You can make up with her and get back together but you need
to apply the recommendations listed above first; but don’t despair. I know this is hard to believe but, the rebound
relationship is a sign that she’s still in love with you. In learning how a rebound relationship can work in your
favor is just the first step in restoring your relationship.
For more information or help in restoring your relationship, check out The Magic of
Making Up System.
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