I'm Still In Love but My Ex May Not Be:
What Should I do?

If you find yourself thinking in your mind “I’m still in love but my ex may not be” then, the next thing you need to ask yourself is “do I give it a shot and try to win them back”. Your ex may not be all that interested in reconciliation but, if you need to know for sure, here are some ideas that will help you find out whether they are still in love with you.

One way of determining whether your ex is interested in restoring the relationship is what they are saying to you. If they say they are no longer in love with you, they are either telling you the truth or they are guarding their heart from further hurt. By knowing which it is will enable you to determine if it is worth pursuing or not. Don’t forget, you initially broke up for a reason and you both should know what that was. Whatever that reason was, it is still fresh in your ex’s mind. They could just be keeping you away because they are desirous to avoid any more pain.

Another thing to consider is, based on those reasons you broke up over, whether it is worth it to even consider getting back together in the first place. Even if your ex was the one who initiated the breakup, you might want to think long and hard before moving forward with the possibility of renewing the relationship. It may be that the reasons you broke up far outweigh the chance that reconciliation is even possible, let alone staying together for good. Also, don’t rule out the pain you both experienced through the breakup as a measurement to your willingness to chance opening up those wounds all over again.

Keep in mind, the old saying is true that ‘absence makes the heart grow fonder’ and that could be a contributing factor why you are being tossed back and forth feeling in your heart ‘I’m still in love but my ex may not be’. You need to consider this as a distinct possibility and carefully weigh it out before plunging headlong back into a relationship that may not last. But, if the breakup was mutual and civil, there may be a chance that getting back together will work.

Should all that has been said up to this point be an encouragement for you to move forward toward reconciliation, be sure you understand it won’t be easy. Trust has been broken between the two of you and that will take some time and dedication on both your parts to regain. But, if you are both willing to put your best foot forward, it can be done. Just realize that, initially, you will have to be the one to set the example by doing everything you can to show that you are sincere.

Getting back together will most likely be great at first because you have both agreed to set aside the reasons you broke up with each other in the first place. But, that is the time to take advantage of the lightheartedness of the moment and tackle your differences, while there is the best chance for wounds to heal. This is something you should both agree to right out the gate in order to have the best chance of resolving those differences. Take advantage of this ‘honeymoon’ period to address why you broke up in the first place, without all the shouting and finger pointing.

A very good thing to consider if you both agree to give the relationship another chance is to seek counseling. Many times, through professional counseling, the reasons you thought were important enough to initiate the breakup were not as big as you thought. These reasons are commonly referred to as ‘making a mountain out of a mole hill’. If you find that your ex was also feeling the same as you by thinking in their heart ‘I'm Still In Love but My Ex May Not Be', it may just be the beginning of a new life together; one that will end up stronger than ever before. Remember, just as a broken bone becomes stronger after it has healed, so to can your relationship if you are willing to do what it takes to ‘reset’ the break and let the healing begin!

For more information and helpful articles and books to aid your quest to restore your relationship check out our other Get Your Ex Back Articles.

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