Dealing With Being Dumped
Is someone you love and depend on telling you that they don't want or need you anymore? If so, this can be
one of life's most difficult situations. It hurts, it's confusing, and it's just plain painful. There are
good ways and bad ways of dealing with being dumped. Which way you choose will play a big
part in determining how quickly you'll move on, and how much of your dignity will still be intact when you do.
The first thing you need to do is sever all ties with your ex. That means no email, phone
calls, texts, and for heavens sake...no drunken dialing. And, the no communication rule has to be held to both
ways. Even if your ex is trying to contact you by any of the ways mentioned above, do not talk to them.
One exception to that rule is if you've just broken up and
your ex has called you. You may want to talk to them; who knows, they may have changed their mind?! But
whether this is true or not, it's important that you don't allow yourself to be used by your ex.
They may not genuinely want you back; they may just find they are a little lonely. This is a warning you need to
heed: If you still have feelings for them it will make you very vulnerable to accepting whatever little crumbs of
attention they throw your way. Don't give in to it. Once you realize the truth, you will only feel
used, and it will take you much longer to cut the ties and move on with your life.
Many of us put some of our own needs on the back burner when we are in a relationship. If your ex didn't like to
do some of the things you liked to do, you probably haven't done those activities very much. Start doing them
now. Spend time doing things that make you feel strong and good about yourself. It will not only help you reconnect
with old friends but can aid in you finding yourself again.
It's important that you take control of your own mind. Don't let yourself fall into the trap of thinking of your
ex and what could have been. Keep a tight rein on your thoughts and only spend time thinking of good things. Don’t
let the ‘woulda shoulda couldas’ sway you from getting on with your life.
Maybe you could finally take that college class you’ve always wanted to take but never did, or joing that gym
you've been thinking about, etc. Any thoughts that will help you focus your attention on you and your future,
rather than on the painful memories of your past, will be of great help in moving you forward more quickly.
Dealing with being dumped is never easy but, if you follow this
advice you can make it through. You'll be happier, more confident and ready for whatever adventure lies
ahead.
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